That one thing that no bride ever needs help planning at their Nashville wedding is their bridesmaids! Choosing the ladies that will stand next to you through everything leading up to the big day is so much fun and frankly something we start talking about basically as soon as we can walk up that pretend aisle while playing “wedding”. I know every girl out there has thought about who will be there with you, even if you aren’t close to getting married. (guilty as charged here!) Starting from childhood you build your bridal party one-by-one so when he does pop the question you are more than ready to turn around and ask a question of your own! How should you ask them?! That’s another blog, for another day but these are just a few things that I think are important to keep in mind about your maids.
You have a budget for your wedding, and so should they!
As a bride you know what you want to spend the most money on and what is most important to you to put your cash into. As a bridesmaid it can be hard to know how much money to put aside for different wedding expenses. I can’t tell you how much your girls will truly appreciate knowing how much to put aside and when these expenses will come up! The dress may be a given, but things like new shoes, hair, makeup, and bachelorette weekends-those things can change depending on what you are planning! They know that it will cost money when they say “I do” to standing next to you, but don’t be afraid to let them know how much!
Put yourself in her shoes
Literally! If you think you have just found the most perfect shoes that will look sooo perfect, please do them the favor of trying them on yourself first to see if you can wear them for more than a few minutes. Evaluate the level of comfort and consider that they will be standing in them for much, much longer than that! Something else to remember is that you will probably be in their weddings one day, and you would want some comfy kicks too!
Just because this is the biggest moment of your life doesn’t mean it’s the ONLY thing going on in theirs
Your wedding is probably what you spend most of your time thinking about, I don’t blame you! Whether it’s planning every detail or just day dreaming about how the big day will play out I’m bet it’s near impossible to get out of your head. While your friends are thrilled to be in your wedding, that doesn’t mean that they can drop everything they are doing when you find a flower that you absolutely love or to look at linen colors. Remember that they probably have tons of things going on in their families, careers, and relationships as well! Make sure you ask how the big project at work is going or how the kids’ play went last week!
They want to know your expectations!
They are so excited and honored to be a part of your day but that doesn’t mean they know what they can do to help! Just let them know what you want them to do, trust me they will appreciate it! Your fiancé and your families have a huge impact on many of the decisions you will make surrounding your wedding day. If you know your family will throw you a huge shower, and there is no need for your bridesmaids to throw you one, then tell them! If your fiancé’s family will be offended if the bridesmaids drink at the rehearsal dinner, tell them! If you want a low key bachelorette weekend at a spa rather than a huge blowout party, tell them! That is the only way that they are going to know these things and this will keep you all happy if the expectations are out there!
Most importantly, remember they are there because you couldn’t imagine getting hitched without them by your side
You may get stressed with all the preparations leading up to your wedding but the most important thing to remember is that you asked these wonderful ladies to be there with you because you knew you couldn’t imagine marrying the man of your dreams without them there to celebrate with you! They are there for you through it all. These ladies will do everything to make your day everything you dreamed of and more. Don’t forget to have fun and enjoy every minute of it!